Unbalanced Love
Relationships are one of many things in life that's very challenging. You have two separate lives that are slowing connecting and adapting to new untapped areas.
You find something that's attractive. Aggravating, and adorable about each other. It keeps you hanging on a bit longer. You are a fighter and believer in making things work and won't give up. I'm completely like this. I'll figure out a way and I'll justify everything before I just throw in the towel. If my heart is in it there is no way I'm backing down without a fight.
But, what I recently discovered is if you are not compatible and if you don't want the same things in life. Your relationship will not end the way you expect it too. You'll find yourself waiting for something spectacular or more and you'll never get it. Or you will stay in a relationship hoping for change and get the same results constantly. Then in a matter of time they're fights, you get depressed and it's a never ending cycle.
Does this make you bad people because you have different goals? Absolutely not. Does it make you hate that you tried, no. Life is an experience and learn and you grow from every situation. But you have to know when things are what they are. You can't just live in something you are not happy with, no matter the benefit.
If your goals in your life don't align in some way. Your relationship will be unbalanced. For example, if you are a family person and your family is extremely close and your spouse or partner doesn't like people or being around people. This causes issues for you. It's completely okay for someone to not like what you like, but it becomes a problem later on. How do you explain at every event, this is not for him or her? Or make up excuses of why they are not around.
If you love to get out and be in the midst of fun events and try doing new things, but you end up doing it alone it's unbalanced. If you can't share the things you love with a person you care about… how long will this work? If you rather hangout and go places with your friends than the person you are with, how does this work?
One person can't want an end goal that the other is not on board with.
How do you feel about this? Could you work out a relationship like this?